(Refrain) We are each the love of someone’s life

Found something amazing today. I realized that the reader who recently left a comment on one of my old blog entries (written 2 years ago!) actually came upon my blog by chance, and also penned a fuller response in her own blog! Her entry is over here:


I hope you enjoy the book, J!


~ by irwin on September 11, 2008.

5 Responses to “(Refrain) We are each the love of someone’s life”

  1. Thank you for writing again! It was such a joy reading your old entries (yes, all of them!), esp the faithful one which drove me to write mine (gist of it was still from yours). I believe you do inspire people out there, and do continue writing, for it is a wonderful gift you have =)

  2. Thank you for your kind comments! =)

  3. I finally finished the book. Could feel the character, Max’s, pain and anguish, at having the love of his life not accept him for who he really is. This is not the typical love story, I might add. Somehow, this book reminded me that there could really be no such thing as the perfect love – where 2 people really do love each other for who they really are. Here, although Max knew that Alice was the love of his life, she did not feel the same way about him, and I begin to wonder, could there be instances where the love of your life is in fact the love of that person’s life as well?

    “It is a brave and stupid thing, a beautiful thing, to waste one’s life for love.”

  4. Yup, I certainly agree that it is not a typical love story, which is what makes it so interesting for me. Even the idea of Alice not ‘accepting’ who Max is, is quite different from our idea of ‘acceptance’ in normal relationships. For Alice, this notion of acceptance is complicated at each stage of Max’s unusual life by the fact that she mistakes him for the age that he looks on the outside. In our normal lives, even though we are not blindsided by the incongruity in the age of the other person, we still find acceptance of the other a task at times…

    And yes, wouldn’t it be nice if you are the love of the person who is also the love of your life? This is the wonderful match that I’m sure many couples have found, and it goes back to how some of us believe in the existence of ‘The One’ that would fulfill this!

    “Tis better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.”

  5. All in all, I was enthralled by the story and the author’s writing. Although not the typical love story, but the fact that Max could live out the last years of his life with his son and wife, though unknowingly to them, was perhaps the best gift to him in itself. No matter that he wasn’t accepted by her, like what you wrote: its better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all!

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