Sometimes we really have to choose to choose
I must admit that it’s been a long hiatus since my last post as I’ve been busy with many exciting things and also just completed my NS Reservist over the last 2 weeks. Will share more in future posts (hopefully! =) But for now, I just want to share some thoughts on this article that I recently read on Discover Magazine. I love Discover Magazine as it is one of those magazines that has an eclectic mix of issues, topics, ideas (like Monocle =) that I think gel well with my serendipitous style of learning and discovering new things!
Here’s the link to the article entitled ‘Youth, Regret, and the Pain of Possibilities Lost’. In sum, the article is about how a recent study by Stefanie Brassen and her colleagues at University Medical Center Hamburg-Eppendorf in Germany suggests that young people feel more regret than old people, largely because the older people seem to be quashing those nasty feelings before the feelings overtake them. Indeed, they found that the only 60-somethings who experienced regret at the same level as 20-somethings were those who were depressed.
The study and its mechanics are fascinating and I would recommend you to read them in the article. But the part which really resonated with me was the conclusion paragraph, where the writer asserts that:
“one thing is sure about making a decision—it requires you to close doors. Maybe the pain these young subjects were showing in their ventral striatum was the pain of feeling, in retrospect, that there was no turning back, that the option of opening more boxes was now lost, never to return. That’s a sensation that might not have troubled the 60-somethings in the study as much, because they have already spent a lifetime getting used to it.”
Indeed, I believe that sometimes we really have to choose to choose.